Is this you?
All unhappiness increases your level of stress.
That is, low lying unhappiness. Hidden worry. Background fear. Supressed anger. Disappointment. A sense of being wronged. A longing for love.
Its all stress. Far more than is realised.
You may have a happy face. Or a cheerful way of being.
Perhaps you appear far too busy and efficient to be suffering. But so much of the di-stress is kept out of sight. I have to keep going, you tell yourself. So it all gets put in an inner compartment and on you go with a happy face. It’s as if nobody must know.
It all builds up
Stress comes in many forms. As we’ve seen, its unhappiness. It is also negative thoughts - they certainly increase the stress levels.
It is ruminating about what we believe shouldn't or should have happened. It is too much to do. It is fearing and despising another person.
It is dread. It is fury. Resentment. Suppressed feelings.
The problem with all of this is that the effects of stress tend to build up. The effects are felt within your mind, heart and all other organs.
You don't want this. You want to feel free and light and understood. You want to understand why and how. And you want to make sense of what has happened, or is happening.
To do this you need a safe therapeutic environment. This I provide and I will support you well.
Rarely do any of us talk about deeper things. You may bottle things up and put on a front. It may feel like the only way.
And you might wonder.... who can I talk to, completely openly?
You imagine saying it all to partner, friend, parent... oh no. Where do you start? And what on earth will they think? How will it change anything? How will it change your relationship with that person? Will you wish you'd never mentioned it....?
And so, nothing changes. You continue to suffer. Your health declines.
So you go back to putting on the front. Yet chances are you're exhausted and feel quite unwell at times.
What to expect
Somehow something propels people forward into picking up the phone, or sending me an email. They have usually reached that point - it feels like rock bottom.
You know, your initial session can be the most blessed relief ever! There can be a real shift in the way you feel. Already.
Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.
(Barbara De Angelis)
So many benefits
The women I work with gain on so many levels. Of course, feeling better, is the obvious one.
But beyond the obvious, their health improves because their immune system functions better. They feel empowered. They can make decisions more easily - often ending something that no longer serves them. They get their life back.
They feel deeply understood, perhaps for the first time - this alone allows stress to drop away.
They feel lighter, hopeful and less defended. They realise what their behaviour is about. This brings closure.
They realise what matters.
They look at their loved ones in a different way. Their relationships are deeper and more loving.
They sleep well!
Their priorities shift. And it doesn't stop there... the changes in you radiate out. So everyone you come into contact with benefits. Essentially those closest to you.
But it is not always easy, this process.
It can bring up feelings that you've buried for decades. What is important to know is that whatever stays in your system, in terms of feelings, will always affect you. Or make you ill.
It simply has to be worked through.
So, let’s arrange your initial session.
Many find that the first session brings such a release. And what a great start. Even if you wanted to leave it at that, then something will have already shifted.
Book your session
You can begin to resolve your difficulties and feel much better. This can change the rest of your life.
Sessions are by phone, video call or in-person. I charge £68 for an hour session.
Whatever your life circumstances, be assured that you will be sharing your world with a warm, non-judgemental, respectful and compassionate counsellor. My daily work includes helping people through the most painful of life experiences.
Sessions are pre-bookable, and you can find out more by getting in touch with me: Enquire or Book Here
Or call me: 07342 652090